“New relationship energy”的意思、由来-开放百科全书

New relationship energy (or NRE) refers to a state of mind experienced at the beginning of sexual and romantic relationships, typically involving heightened emotional and sexual feelings and excitement. NRE begins with the earliest attractions, may grow into full force when mutuality is established, and can fade over months or years. The term indicates contrast to those feelings aroused in an "old" or ongoing relationship.

Origin

The term originated in the Usenet postings of Zhahai Stewart in the 1980s^[1] and more widely presented in 1993.^[2] Definition of the concept reflects unawareness of limerence, which was first defined in 1979.^[3]

While the dynamics described by NRE apply to all relationships, the term is particularly prevalent in the polyamorous community, as people with multiple concurrent intimate relationships experience new relationship energy alongside more settled ongoing relationships. Adjusting to and compensating for the contrast in effect and excitement between the new and old relationships is considered an important factor in successfully balancing those relationships.^[1] Describing the process in a positive way can help old partners deal with feelings of jealousy towards the new partner, as well as helping the person with a new partner be more understanding and conscious of maintaining their existing relationships.^[4]{{better source|date=September 2018}}

New relationship energy is generally{{clarify|date=January 2018}} considered desirable, perhaps nearly indispensable in forming deep emotional bonds, but it can also temporarily distort perceptions and judgements and this must be taken into account.^[5] These distortions of perception do not automatically imply that the attraction is unreal or will not last (indeed most lasting romantic bonds do begin with NRE,{{citation needed|date=January 2018}} although this does not mean that most relationships that begin with NRE would lead to lasting romantic bonds because of the complications that can come with the end of NRE), only that the magnitude of these positive feelings is greater than it is likely to be later, and some potential interpersonal problems may seem smaller than they will later become. Caution rather than avoidance or suppression is usually{{when|date=January 2018}} suggested in dealing with NRE.^[6]

Puppy love carries a connotation of immaturity, transience, and superficiality. Infatuation has negative or disparaging associations with a focus on unreality and obsession. The honeymoon phase has similar connotations to NRE but is perceived as occurring subsequent to marriage or similar full commitment, while many people experience new relationship energy well before (or totally outside) marriage. There are no other common terms in English that carry the connotation of explicit contrast with the tone and feeling of older or established relationships.{{CN|date=September 2018}}

A less-common variant is new relationship chemistry, which is conceptually similar to NRE except with emphasis explicitly limited to the brain chemistry involved in creating the euphoric feelings, rather than actions and rationalized feelings involved with NRE.^[7]

A related term is limerence, a state of intense romantic desire and anxiety which can vary from longing to intense joy or despair and conveys the sense of infatuation and unreason described by Dorothy Tennov in her book Love and Limerence.^[3]

References

1. ^¹{{Cite web|url=http://aphroweb.net/nre_origin.htm|title=New Relationship Energy|last=Stewart|first=Zhahai Spring|last2=Cook|first2=Cascade Spring|date=|website=aphroweb.net|publisher=Aphrodite's Web|access-date=26 October 2016}}
2. ^{{Cite magazine|last=Stewart|first=Zhahai|date=2001|title=What's all this NRE stuff, anyway?|url=http://aphroweb.net/articles/nre.htm|magazine=Love More|issue=26|doi=|pmid=|access-date=26 October 2016}}
3. ^¹{{cite book|last=Tennov|first=Dorothy|authorlink=Dorothy Tennov|title=Love and limerence: the experience of being in love|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=uPsDAAAACAAJ|accessdate=12 March 2011|year=1999|publisher=Scarborough House|isbn=978-0-8128-6286-7}}
4. ^{{Cite web|url=https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2005/apr/04/britishidentity|title=Free love gets a fit of the wibbles|last=Alexander|first=Steven|date=4 April 2005|website=theguardian.com|publisher=The Guardian|access-date=26 October 2016}}
5. ^Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love By Helen Fisher, PhD; Henry Holt: February 2004; {{ISBN|0-8050-6913-5}}
6. ^Fox, R. Affirmative Psychotherapy With Bisexual Women And Bisexual Men. Binghamton, NY: Haworth Press, 2006
7. ^{{Cite web|url=http://www.theinnbetween.net/polyterms.html#newrelationshipchemistry|title=The Inn Between - Polyamory|last=Joreth|first=|date=2002|website=theinnbetween.net|publisher=The Innkeeper|access-date=26 October 2016}}

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